Archive | February 2014

Enjoying Valentine’s Day As A Single

At some point in our lives all of us will spend Valentine’s Day as a single. For many this is one of the hardest days of the year, but it doesn’t have to be. There are several things you can do to ensure that your Valentine’s is enjoyable if you are single.

1. Get Out of the House: If you are not in a relationship don’t feel like you have to stay in and wait for the day to pass. This day can be perfect to spend with other friends who are single. Here are some things that you might consider doing:
a. Brunch/Lunch/Dinner: Enjoy anything that sounds good to you. This can be a hard day, so remember to resist the temptation to overindulge
b. Movies
c. Shopping: When shopping with friends don’t make it about what you need. Have fun, but don’t go overboard and regret it later.
d. Museum: Any museum that interests you
e. Bowling/Games: Main Event or Dave and Busters
f. Manicures/Pedicures
g. Spa Day: Massage, Facials, etc.

2. Stay In: If the idea of going out does not appeal to you than by all means stay home. Here are some things you might consider doing
a. Cooking/Baking a Dessert: Take time to enjoy cooking/baking if you like to cook/bake. If you are not interested in cooking or baking, order take out or have something delivery.
b. Movie: Relax and watch that movie that you haven’t gotten around to watching.
c. Hot Bubble Bath
d. Reading: Take time to read that book that you haven’t been able to get to.
e. Running/Walking

3. Celebrate Yourself: When you are in a relationship you often spend time doing things the other person enjoys that you do not. Celebrate you freedom! Get on Google and find other people who have the same interests. If you enjoy hiking find a group of people who love to hike! If you enjoy surfing find a group for that. Somewhere, close to you are people who have similar interests.

You might also consider buying yourself a gift. No one knows you better than yourself, so take a second to think of something you want and get it. As stated before don’t go overboard. Think of something small that you can do or buy for yourself.

4. Celebrate Family and Loved Ones: You may not be in a relationship, but you are NOT alone. Take time to show your family and friends that you love them. Here are some ideas that you might consider:
a. Gifts: Buy your friends and family a card, gifts or candy. Consider making a hand made card!
b. Brunch/Lunch/Dinner: Take your friends and/or family out to brunch/lunch/dinner to show them that you care. Use this as a time to let them know how much you love and care for them.

5. Find a Faux Valentine: Find another single friend and be each other’s Valentine. Pick a set dollar amount and buy that person a gift. Take time, and put thought into it to capture the spirit of the day. Do not choose somebody that you are attracted to, or visa-versa. This is strictly platonic.

6. Serve: When your having a hard day, or going through a hard time, there is nothing better you can do than getting lost in serving others. Serving others can help put things in perspective and can lighten your mood. Here are some ways you might consider serving:
a. Soup Kitchen: Go and serve meals at a soup kitchen
b. Children’s Hospital: Go and spend the day at a children’s hospital. Read to sick children, or help them make Valentine’s. These children don’t often get the time or luxury of enjoying things that their peers do. Give them time, and engage them in activities that help them remember what it’s like to be a child. Time is fleeting, and these little ones need to remember what it’s like to be 5 or 6 years old.
c. Assisted Living Facility Go and spend the day at an assisted living facility. If you have a relative in assisted living go and spend the day with them. If you do not have a family member in assisted living find a facility and go spend time with the elderly. It doesn’t take much to make their day; sometimes your presence will be enough to lift their spirits and make their day.

’07. Don’t Hate the Lovers: Don’t envy somebody just because they’re in a relationship. Look around and know that if it can happen for someone else, it can happen for you. EVERYONE will go through a period where they are single, and chances are many will spend Valentine’s single.

If none of these things appeal to you, spend your Valentine’s making sure that the picture looks different next year. Think about what you want to change in yourself, and in future relationships. Find some books in the area in which you want to improve and spend time reading them. Spend time looking into dating websites like Eharmony, Match.com or any other that appeals to you. Let your friends know that you are looking, and be open to going out with someone they suggest. If nothing else, remember that it’s just one day out of the year, and it will be over in the blink of an eye. Either way, whatever you do enjoy your Valentine’s and love the people around you. Have a safe and blessed holiday.

-Amanda Nethery