New Years has come and gone, but remnants of January 1st are all around us. Pictures from that epic New Year’s Eve party are still visible on our Facebook feed. We might have neglected to put away our Christmas decorations and they may be visible as well. We may have also neglected to keep our New Year’s Resolutions. Many of us set out with good intentions, but it’s hard to keep up with them. If you are reading this and this sounds familiar to you, read on! The following are a list of questions to ask yourself:
1. Are My Goals Realistic? : In my first blog entry, last January, I suggested that people set realistic goals. If you have failed already neglected your goals ask yourself if they were realistic? Did you set the bar too high? Many people set out with good intentions, but they make goals that will be very hard to attain. Some people tell themselves they will lose weight in the New Year which is a good and healthy goal to make. But, the problem lies in how much people expect themselves to lose. Some people make goals to lose a significant amount of weight in an unreasonable amount of time. When this happens and people fail they feel bad about it. This can be avoided if they think reasonably and make realistic goals.
2. What Have My Mistakes Taught Me? : If you have already broken your resolutions I urge you to take a step back. As you take look back ask yourself this: what have my mistakes taught me? I also urge you to look back further. Think about goals you have made in years past. Are any of your present goals ones you have made in the past? How did you do in the past? If you haven’t met your goals in the past, what will you do differently to ensure that you meet them this year? If you have neglected to keep your resolutions I encourage you to try again. Every day is a new day and it’s not too late!
3. How Will You Reach Your Goals? : After you ask yourself what your mistakes have taught you, ask yourself this: what will it take to get me there? How will I achieve my goals? One thing that may help is to come up with a list of steps it will take to achieve your goal(s). If your goal is to lose weight ask yourself how you plan on meeting your goal. Next decide what steps you will need to take to lose weight.
4. Do I Have Support? : If you have failed to keep your goals, I urge you to talk to other people. Ask them to hold you accountable as you work try to get back on track. The poet John Donne once said, “[n]o man is an island,” and this is certainly true. People do better when they have support. It is harder when you go at it alone and a lot easier when you have help.
It is my hope this list is another source of help as work to get back on track. The end of January is approaching at warp speed, but you don’t have to abandon your New Year’s Resolutions. Christmas decorations will eventually be put up, but I encourage you to do differently with your New Resolutions. You leave them up, and continue to work on them all year.